Saying Goodbye

I enjoyed watching the Young Sheldon tv show and I was in tears when his father died. He was such a likeable character. The writers really tugged at the heart strings on that episode as Sheldon, who doesn't show emotion, dealt with his father's death. He played over and over and over in his mind (and in scenes to bring us to tears) the last moment when his father left for work and said goodbye. Now knowing it was his last goodbye, Sheldon imagined all the possible things he could have said to his father instead of treating it like the usual mundane goodbye.

How this hits home with me. There are many times when loved ones, especially the youngest ones, forget to give a hug goodbye when they leave. I know things are often chaotic and it's hard enough to find all their belongings and get out the door all at once. Or maybe some just don't like hugs as much as I do. I also know that children don't think, and never should they, "what if this is the last time I see them?" I don't focus on that either, but hugs are always precious no matter how many I get. 

I do know the important thing is that even if we never get a last hug, or an "I love you", our relationships are strong enough that we know the love is there. I'm sorry we get too busy or pre-occupied to always express it. Despite knowing it, it can't be shown too often. On the other hand, it is often just habit to hug goodbye, and we may not even remember if we did it or not because it is done so often. If I should leave this world, just remember it as if we did hug. I am sure it was in your heart. 

49th Wedding Anniversary Trip Part 1

We decided to celebrate our 49th wedding anniversary with a little vacation to see some sites we'd been wanting to see, some re-visiting of sites and some new sites. It was an extremely diversified vacation. We have vacationed in New York state before, but this vacation in particular, I was reminded of how beautiful and diversified the state itself is, with mountains and fields and lakes and waterfalls and cities, we avoided the latter and found most of the driving off of major highways. 

Let me also add that I found this awesome ap, called Wanderlog. It was extremely helpful in planning this constantly on the move vacation unlike a one-destination vacation. 

The first stop was the world's smallest church! This was the Cross Island Chapel in Oneida, NY. We only saw it from shore, as you need a rowboat to reach it. Weddings have taken place here. 

These unique trees are near the chapel property.

We had some awesome sandwiches at this place in Rome. I had the "Go home you're drunk" and it was delicious. I think George had the "Not your Mama's chicken parm sandwich. 

Not to freak you out, but I had to take a picture of this. There was a cool little square dot that you push to click on the mirror of the bathroom where we stayed. When it lit up the frame and I looked into it, it made my pupils look rectangular. Really kind of freaky. You may have to zoom in. Just a silly diversion.

Our first full day we started by seeing the Chittenango Falls, Very impressive. 

You couldn't even see the bottom from where we were standing. Not great for those with a fear of heights! I didn't even try to look. 

On our way to our next stop, we were off to see the wizard in Chittenango.

The Everything Oz museum is small but mighty with everything they have related to the Wizard of Oz. It is chock full of information about the books and movie. Most of the items are replicas that were used in play productions. There is only one item from the original movie, which was pointed out to me when I asked. I will save that for the end here. In the meantime, here are a few pictures of some of the exhibits. 

 

What I found most interesting here, was that Baum was in a sense, self-published. The George M. Hill publishing company did not want to publish because of the expense of the colorful illustrations, so Baum and Denslow agreed to pay all printing costs--first for "Father Goose" and then the next year, "The Wonderful Wizard of Oz." 

You might wonder if I took a picture of everything in the museum. I did not. There was so much more. If you love "The Wizard of Oz", I suggest you stop by. And now, as I promised, a picture of the one original item from the movie! Get out your magnifying glass.  In the lower righthand corner of this frame are little pieces of the actual straw hat the Ray Bolger wore in the movie. Talk about grasping at straws for something authentic. 

But it was a great little museum and a lot of fun. I only wondered why they didn't have the yellow brick road painted on the floor or even a yellow brick welcome mat in front. I asked and they said they had thought about it and that was all. Oh, well. At least they did have a good photo op for us.

Next blog post, our next stop, another favorite movie. 

Enthusiasm Reflection # 31

My parents used to hire neighbor kids from one family to shovel their snow. They were extremely polite and well-behaved. As the kids got older, they weren't always available and so the job was passed on to the younger ones. 

I remember my parents relating this incident. Evidently the youngest sibling was recruited to help for the first time. She was probably about eight years old. She was so excited, "I've never had a job before. This is my first job!"

My father watched as she loaded the shovel and then walked ten feet across the driveway to dump it. She kept doing that until my Dad couldn't bear to watch any more. He showed her an easier way, knowing if she continued the way she was, it would become nighttime before she finished. All the while she was shoveling, she kept asking, "Am I doing a good job, Mr. Casey? Am I doing good?" He assured her she was.

After a while she commented, "This is hard work," and quickly added, "but I love it!" Her final comment came, I'm sure after my dad paid her (and he is always generous), "This is the best day of my life!"

What enthusiasm! If only we could all have such enthusiasm in life. So many lessons in this: She was willing to work and to work hard without complaining. She was open to being taught a better way to work. She chose optimism in every load she shoveled. She also looked for affirmation that she was doing a good job. She was rewarded, though something tells me, she would have been happy even if she was not. The reward was the cherry on top. 

It is easier to be that way when you are starting a new task. As time goes on, things can get weary. When I find myself dreading daily drudgery, I try to remind myself of Colossians 3:23, 24 "Whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance, for you serve the Lord Christ." 

On days of struggle, I hope God will bring to mind this special little girl and her wonderful mindset to encourage me and I hope that God will generously reward me too, just as my Dad did for this little girl. I wish the same for you. 

Standing Firm Reflection #30

This past week we saw the power of lightning. Out of our sunroom window, I saw fire in mid-air. Later I learned that it was a piece of bark that was on fire. Thankfully the rain put it out. 

The next day after the storm, we investigated the incident. I found pieces of bark throughout the yard. Some carried by the wind, I presume, others rocketed by the force of lightning which had hit a tall tree in our backyard. It was quite impressive to see the tree stripped of a huge section of bark. After more investigation in the next couple of days with family members, not only did we find another nearby tree that was hit, but also trenches leading away (or to, we are not sure) the tree trunks. One side of one tree was burned and the other side had the bark blown off in a strip like the other tree.

This all led us to educational moments, not only for ourselves, but to teach our grandchildren. We researched online and I couldn't believe to read that lightning can heat up the air to five times hotter than the sun. It really is unfathomable to me. When the lightning strikes a tree, it vaporizes any water or sap in the tree, thus exploding or stripping the bark off the tree. It is fascinating and scary. I have a new respect for lightning. Not only were the trees injured, but we lost a TV, internet modem, well water panel and an outside motion detector light.

Before I took the grandchildren to see the tree, I asked them, "What do you think a tree hit by lightning looks like?" They said burnt up, fallen down. I told them I would think that too, then had them follow the trail of bark pieces to the tree.

In our studies, I read the tree may not be dead. It may be able to survive this injury. It does expose it to the elements, bugs and disease, but it could still stand. It's amazing to us that those two trees are standing despite their trauma.

And that is life. For some, life's traumas can just ruin them. They are struck down. For others the devastating blow is painful, and scarring. It is something they are now going to have to live with. The world sees this tree's scars but for some people the scarring is just on the inside. They keep their pain to themselves unbeknownst to others. They have to fight off the "insects" of self-defeat and pity that can eat away at them. I hope when lightning strikes that you can stand tall despite your scars exposed to the world or those that are hidden. May you find the strength and healing to stand firm. 

I leave you with God's word: "Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong." 

I Corinthians 16:13

Winding Paths Reflection #29

One of our vacations was seeing waterfalls in NY. From Buttermilk Falls in Ithaca to the amazing Taughannock Falls (tallest single drop east of the Rocky Mountains--215 feet), to Watkins Glen. Water was the common factor, but each site was different.

There is a cave-like entrance to Watkins Glen State Park, and you have no clue of what is beyond the stairway. There was a dark, twisty path weaving in and out of various water formations and in and out of sunlit areas. I took a few pictures, but I remember gripping the railings too, my fear of heights at times being tested. At one point I could see what I remember as looking like a suspension bridge ahead. I was worried about how I could ever go over it. My knees were shaking before we even got near it. With George leading the way, I kept moving but slowly and in fear.

As we pushed along through some dimly lit parts and some with sunlight shining through, passing pools of water and waterfalls, I know I did not fully enjoy it all worrying about the bridge. However, our route did not take us on the suspension bridge. I was so relieved. 

Still each turn revealed a new part of our path, and the fear of the unknown around each corner, kept my heart beating a little faster, and my sweaty hands clinging to the railing. Would we keep climbing? How high would we go? Would we have to go on a different bridge?  Would I slip and fall? Would I drop my camera in the water (always a concern with me since I had seen it happen before). How much longer?

I was grateful when we made it through the two miles and there really wasn't anything too scary that I couldn't handle. None of my fears were realized. I could have enjoyed the journey so much more if I had known what the whole path looked like. 

Isn't life like that at times? We spend so much time worrying about the future, the unknown, and overlook the moment we are in--the blessings of the journey. Did my worrying change the outcome? No. Did my fears take away from the moment I was in? Yes. If I had dropped my camera, would I have survived? Yes, but of course, I would be upset. Did my concerns make me more cautious? Yes, that was the only legitimate response to my fears. 

We really wish life came with a map showing us how we will get through the rough spots and where the sun will shine again, but if that was the case, would we get careless? Would I loosen my grip on the railing or my camera? Would I overconfidently walk too fast on the slippery rocks? Would I lose the opportunity of learning lessons along life's way?

We need to trust step by step that as new obstacles or wonders appear before us, that there is a new view around the corner. Sometimes it's not what we want but we keep moving and although we don't see the end, we need to step forward in faith. I am grateful I had my husband with me leading the way and sometimes in life, just by my side. 

I leave you with God's word: "So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34.

Taughannock Falls

Pictures from Watkins Glen Falls State Park:

Through the Storms Reflection #28

My thoughts on Mark 4:35-41

In the midst of the storms,

The wind blew

As the boat filled with water

The disciples feared for their lives.

Through it all, Jesus was in the boat, asleep.

Fear overtook them.

They were surely going to drown.

They woke Jesus, asking if he even cared about them.

Jesus stopped the winds and calmed the seas.

They were in awe of the power of Jesus.

But he asked where their faith was. 

My mind wanderings...was Jesus really asleep or was he waiting?

Was this a test of their faith in him?

How long before they remembered this man who was doing miracles was right there in their boat?

What if he they had never woken him?

Would some have lost their lives?

But Jesus was in the boat.

That was the key.

We will go through storms

He will not always stop the winds and waves

But he's still in the boat with us,

Through the storms 

Just waiting for us to turn to him.

He will be there with us.

Food Shows Reflection #27

Long ago, there used to be these venues called Food Shows. I think Big Y was the sponsor of most of them. They would be held at large facilities like convention centers and it would be filled with mostly booths of free samples of food. Some you ate little bites there, other prepackaged samples you could take home. There were some items you could buy there, but not many. You could also get a lot of coupons, which I was into at that time and recipes.

You could have a meal on the free samples, and it was fun going from a new chicken nugget to a bite of ham, a piece of cheese, a small piece of cake or tiny taste of ice cream and on and on. I cannot begin to remember all the various foods they had and I'm surprised our stomachs didn't reject all the mixed-up choices we ate!

It was a wandering buffet, and we had a good time. Now it did get a little chaotic at times as some people wandered from one booth and skipped others and then went to a different booth seeming to cut in front of those stopping at everything. There were pet food or baby food booths, that some would obviously skip over. It added a little confusion as people slipped in and out of the unofficial line. For the most part everyone was polite but it was difficult for people with strollers to navigate the unruliness.

I said for the most part people were polite. I remember an incident when I may have been considered "cutting in line" or maybe these older teenage girls were trying to get in front of me. Those details I don't really remember, but I do remember the one who said, "Let fatty go," referring to me. Ouch. I didn't say a word. The words hurt. It was no secret to me that I was overweight, but to be referred to like that was pretty cruel and hurtful. 

I don't remember how long those words echoed in my head and continued to cause pain. It did hurt for a while, and I never told George or anyone about it (until now). I did eventually forget all about it. As we were talking about the food shows and remembering, as we always do, a funny incident that happened, this buried memory also resurfaced. I am glad to say, it doesn't hurt any more. It's too bad her words didn't motivate me to lose weight, but such things often have an opposite effect. I wonder how that girl turned out. I could picture her the type to suffer from road rage. I hope she learned to be kinder as life went on. 

I have two applications to God's word in my food show memories. For this part, I am glad that memory was buried, and I am so thankful that God does the same for us. When we ask for forgiveness, our sins are buried and forgotten. He will not ever dig them up again. "For I will be merciful to their iniquities, and their sins will I remember no more." Hebrews 8:12

I will leave on the funnier memory of food shows. I have to say that most of the sample size foods you could just pop in your mouth. Sometimes a toothpick was holding it and there was a place to dispose of them. The kids were with us at this particular food show, and they were familiar with fruit roll ups. For those of you who are not, they are a thin layer of a fruit flavored snack rolled up in plastic to keep it from sticking together, hence called fruit roll-ups. Kids knew how to unroll the plastic to eat the treat. Kids knew. Moms knew. 

These roll-ups had been cut into smaller sample sizes. Not being aware of how to eat a roll-up, George popped the whole thing in his mouth! We were not aware of this, and one of our kids asked him, "How did you like the fruit roll-up?" He replied, "It was ok, but kind of plasticky tasting." Of course, they told him he was supposed to take the plastic off while laughing hysterically--a simple moment at the food show turned into a lasting fun family memory to bring to mind at times and still makes us laugh years later. George will even joke when he doesn't like the taste of something, "It tastes like plastic" to bring a smile and sharing a secret memory. I wonder, though, if people eating plastic was why they stopped having food shows. 

My application to this would be to remind you that you can have a Bible, but you get so much more out of it if you take the plastic off and open it up and read it. You might find a fruit flavor that you enjoy. Leaving you with God's word:  "But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. Psalm 1:2.